Divorce and the Family
How to Heal Your Heart and Protect Your
Chapter 1 - Introduction
"Divorce is the psychological equivalent
of a triple coronary bypass
- M.K. Blakely
Divorce is hard on
every member of your family. Whether you are a husband,
wife or child amidst a divorce, life can at times seem
unbearable and heavy. This primer will help you cope with
the emotional impact divorce has on families, and also
provide you with tools you can use to navigate life with
ease during and following your divorce.
M.K. Blakely had it
Divorce CAN feel like a triple coronary bypass
BUT you can recover, and preserve your joy,
and that of your children.
You can even learn
how to preserve a cooperative parenting relationship with
your ex, even if you remarry and move on in many (though
not all) cases.
This book focuses on
many aspects of divorce, including the prevalence of divorce
in many industrialized nations. Most importantly, this
book will focus on family, and provide parents who have
children some guidance so they can help their children
feel united and strong despite the circumstances surrounding
It is important for
parents to remember that for many children, especially
young children, divorce can be a confusing and very frightening
time. Even older children often hold resentment and express
confusion following a divorce. This is often the source
of one or both parent's fears during divorce.
The good news is you
can learn to literally navigate your way through divorce
while minimizing the impact divorce has on your children.
You do not have to
make divorce a problem. For some couples, divorce may
be the only way to restore amicable relations amongst
all members of the family, including you and your partner.
In the interests of your children, this is better anyway.
Some couples find that
with time they grow into new people, and that growth often
stimulates the desire to explore intimacy with others
or romantic relationships with others. For many other
parents, divorce presents an opportunity to begin life
new, get to know their true self a little better and because
of this, become better parents.